10 Reasons Being Close With Your Father Empowers You To Be A Strong Woman
The relationship between a daughter and a father is unlike any other on Earth.
Ever since I was a little girl I’ve known that my relationship with my dad was special. He’s always had my back, always believed in my dreams (even when they involved things like being the next Barbra Streisand or having a flying horse), and taught me that the only thing that stands in my way is ultimately me…except in the case of the flying horse. There’s not a shred of doubt in my mind that the reason I’m the strong, self-assured, confident woman today is because I had a dad who encouraged me to be nothing less.
1. You see firsthand the way strong men treat strong women.
You see what it’s like to respect others, regardless of gender or status or situation. When you’re raised by a good father, and you’re attached to him, his behavior naturally rubs off on you. Because he leads by example, you follow accordingly. You learn to carry yourself a certain way, to expect a certain level of treatment from people around you. But you also always give it back, because that’s what your dad would do.
2. You’ve always been able to believe in yourself, because someone else believed in you first.
Your confidence isn’t cockiness—it’s simply the result of being raised by someone who always told you that you could do whatever you set your mind to. Instead of focusing on the things you’re not capable of, you instead put your mind towards what you know you can accomplish. When you’re raised by a dad who believes in you, it makes it that much easier to believe in yourself.
3. You’ve witnessed that “strength” doesn’t mean being hardened—that strength doesn’t diminish your ability to be kind, caring, and gentle.
Being caring and empathetic are not qualities synonymous with being a pushover or being weak. Real strength comes from being multifaceted, from allowing yourself to have layers, from allowing yourself to be strong and soft at the same time. Being able and willing to be there for other people is a quality found in the strongest individuals. And that’s something you learned from watching your dad continuously show up for you.
4. You’re not intimidated by challenges because they inspire you.
Challenges excite you. They fuel you. They don’t exhaust you or make you want to curl up into a ball and give up. Instead, they’re kind of why you get up in the morning. You learned from your father to wake up and face life—to never fear it. And it’s impossible to do that if you allow yourself to be intimidated by the tough things.
5. You’re not afraid to stand up for others and most importantly, yourself.
Strong people are there for themselves, but they’re also there for others. They show up, they have people’s backs, they cheer people on, and are there for them if they fall. When you’re raised by a dad who was constantly there for you, you know how important it is to do that for others. Eventually it’s just second nature because to you, it’s just what you do. It’s that simple.
6. You learn the power of forgiveness.
People make mistakes. You’ve made them yourself time and time again and your dad was constantly there with unconditional love and advice and forgiveness. Strength doesn’t come from hanging onto grudges and refusing to let go. It comes from being able to accept people, flaws and all, and reassuring them that they can always come back to you.
7. You absolutely never throw in the towel and give up.
If you’re not afraid of challenges then you’re also not afraid of finishing what you start. You know how to persevere, how to keep going even when the “going” seems impossible. Strong fathers teach the importance of not backing down just because something’s hard. They teach you to put your chin up, hold your shoulders back, and keep on going.
8. You know that you always have people who have your back, and how to be the same for them.
One of the key things most strong people have is an even stronger support system. You know you have your friends and your family, especially your dad, in your corner whenever you need them. You know that there’s no merit in going through life alone, even if you’re technically capable. It’s better with the people who love you. It’s always better with the people who love you.
9. You never, ever settle.
Your standards for your life, your aspirations, and the people you surround yourself with are extremely high. You don’t allow people to walk all over you, to take advantage of you, or to treat you in a way that makes you feel “less than.” You know what you deserve—you watched your dad lead by example your entire childhood. So you don’t settle. And you never will.
10. You have a best friend like no other.
When you’re close with your dad, you have a friend for life. He was there from the literal beginning and he’s the person you know you can call on whenever and he’ll be there. You have a sounding board when you need to talk things out, a shoulder to cry on, and someone to just laugh with whenever you need to. A strong father is a thoughtful leader, a good listener, and a great friend by example. And he raises you to be the exact same way.
See also: Your Body’s Trying to Tell You Something. Here Are 8 Weird Signs!
Most of the time, a twitchy eyelid or trick knee, is just that—no biggie. But there are instances when a seemingly insignificant health quirk may be your body’s way of saying, Hey there, let’s go to the doc. “Most people know the major symptoms of something like a stroke or heart attack, but sometimes you get weird presentations of serious problems,” says Jake Deutsch, M.D., founder and clinical Director of CURE Urgent Care in New York and an Attending Physician in the ER at Hackensack University Medical Center. Here are eight to watch for.
1. You’re the Coolest Guy in the Room—Literally
Are you always reaching for a hoodie? Frequently getting the chills when no one else is? Have your thyroid function tested; it could be a sign of an underactive thyroid, Gaynor says. Other symptoms to look out for: a puffy face, fatigue, hair loss (on your body, too) and weight gain.
2. Brain Fog
If you’re feeling a little out of it despite getting a good night’s sleep and a strong cup of coffee, think about what you’ve been eating. Loading up on bread and pasta? Also have white spots on your tongue? Go see a gastroenterologist as you could have celiac disease, Gaynor says. “There’s a huge gut-brain connection, and if gluten is causing inflammation in your gut, you’re malabsorbing nutrients and you’ve disturbed your gut’s microbiome,” he says. “You may not have any stomach upset except that you feel bloated sometimes.”
3. A Cough that Won’t Quit
If after you get over a nasty cold and your cough lingers for weeks, you may have developed what’s called post-bronchitis syndrome. “It’s like asthma,” says Mitchell Gaynor, M.D., assistant clinical professor of medicine at Weill Cornell Medical College and author of The Gene Therapy Plan: Taking Control of Your Genetic Destiny with Diet and Lifestyle Opens a New Window. . “People think unless you’re wheezing and short of breath it’s not asthma, but that’s not true.” What’s happening: Your airways temporarily got smaller. “The cough responds to an inhaler, so you treat it like asthma until it resolves in a few months,” he says.
4. You Crave and Chew Ice
Have you recently become a vegan? Crunching away on cubes can signal an iron deficiency. Experts aren’t exactly sure what’s behind the link, but a new study in the journal Medical Hypothesis suggests that what people are really after is the stimulating effects from the crunch, crackle and cold. If you’re deficient in iron, there may be less oxygen in the blood (iron is needed to transport O2) so you’re usually fatigued, Deutsch says. “People may crave the reaction they get from chewing ice—it wakes them up.”
5. A Weird Taste in Your Mouth
It may be metallic—or just a different, unpleasant taste. Regardless, if it’s persistent and you haven’t recently had a cold (which can affect taste buds), get checked out and bring all the vitamins and over-the-counter meds you regularly take to the doctor with you. “Overdosing on vitamins can cause it,” Deutsch says. Think multis as well as iron and calcium supplements and even zinc lozenges. The taste usually goes away when the vitamins flush out of your system, but if you’re taking daily vitamins, you keep replenishing the (too-high) levels. Not popping pills? It’s even more important to see your doc: “The taste could mean a more complicated problem with your sinuses or a tumor compressing nerves that help with your senses of smell and taste,” Deutsch says.
6. Bleeding Gums
Seeing red when you floss or brush is a signal of gingivitis or periodontal disease. That’s not so weird, but what is: If you ignore it, you increase your risk for various chronic diseases. “Inflammation in the gums releases inflammatory mediators into the blood that can damage the lining of blood vessels, which allows plaque to build up,” Gaynor says. Aside from heart problems, the inflammation can also increase your risk for type-2 diabetes.
7. Never-ending Hiccups
Aside from driving you insane, hiccups that last for a day or two or longer could be triggered by lung or esophageal cancer, says Gaynor. “The central nervous system controls hiccups and these types of cancers emit antibodies that affect the part that trigger hiccups,” he says. Persistent hiccups might also indicate a stroke, Deutsch says.
8. Come-and-go Jaw Pain
Intermittent shooting pains in the side of your jaw, at the hinge, is often diagnosed as TMJ, or temporal mandibular joint disorder, caused by damaged cartilage or misalignment. But it can be misdiagnosed, and instead indicate Lyme disease. “Lyme disease affects certain nerves that causes the pain in the jaw,” Gaynor says. “In the old days before we knew about the connection, we treated it as TMJ.” About 30,000 cases of Lyme are reported to the CDC each year, but new data estimates the number may actually be closer to 10 times that. “Lyme disease has a number of weird presenting symptoms—it could be anything from irregular heart rhythms and fatigue to manic depression,” Gaynor says.
See also: Don’t Throw Them Away! 9 Awesome Uses For Silica Gel Packets.
Any woman who’s ever bought a new bag, new shoes, or even a bottle of Advil knows about those little silica gel packets that sternly order us to throw them away and not eat them. We’ve all tossed them (and, presumably, not eaten them), but it’s a safe bet that few of us know why they’re lurking inside all our new stuff.
Silica gel is a desiccant, which means it absorbs and holds water. The gel packs suck up water vapor from the air and keep our new products dry and fresh. They’re frequently found packaged with leather products and other items that don’t react well with moisture.
Although we’re told to throw the silica packs away, there are actually a pretty decent amount of surprising—and smart—uses for the little guys. We suggest keeping a few tucked away, especially now that you know what they actually do. Below, 9 times you can put those pesky little packs to good use.
1. Dry Flowers Faster
Dried flowers can serve as a memento of a special occasion, or can just look really cool in a vase. The problem? Letting them dry out can take a long time, and can cause a mess. If you place a bouquet in a plastic bag with silica gel packs, you can speed up the drying process—that’s important because, if the dying process takes to long, the flowers can begin to die before they’re totally dried. The Daily Mail suggests throwing a few more packs of silica gel into the plastic bag than you think you need, just to be safe.
2. Freshen a Gym Bag
Stinky gym bags are the absolute worst—but they’re also hard to avoid. You throw your sweaty workout clothes and sneakers in there, zip it up, and go about your day. If you keep a few silica gel packs in the bag, they’ll help to wick away some of the moisture (read: sweat) that gives gym bags a bad rap. Also, as Wonder How To points out, less moisture means less bacteria, which is something everyone wants. This seems like a no-brainer.
3. Keep Photos Looking New Longer
Although printing photos may seem like a thing of the past, when it comes to special occasions, nothing beats real, tangible photos that you can hold in your hand. Chances are, if you go through the effort to print a photo, you want that print to last. Store your photos and photo albums in sealed plastic boxes, and line those boxes with silica gel packs. Removing the moisture from the containers will keep the photos from curling and bending due to water exposure.
4. Dry Your Swimsuit While Traveling
There’s nothing more annoying (and gross) than having to travel with wet clothes. Don’t have time to let your swimsuit air dry? Silica gel packs can fix this, as My Thirsty Spot points out. Throw your suit in a large zip-top bag filled with silica gel packs—the more the better. Seal the bag tightly and let the silica wick away all the moisture from your bikini.
5. Save a Water-Logged Phone
We’ve all been there: One second your iphone is in your hands, the next it’s deep in the toilet (or a cocktail—no judgement.) While this is a death sentence for most devices, all hope isn’t lost if you have some silica gel packs saved up! Fill a plastic baggie with the packs and slip your phone it. Seal the bag and let the gel suck all the moisture from your phone. Be careful though” Make Life Lovely warns not to be overly eager and turn your phone on too quickly, as this could cause an electrical short and ruin your phone: Be sure to wait a full day or even two.
6. Preserve Razor Blades
Do you find that your expensive razor blades are oxidizing more quickly than you’d like? Wonder How To has a simple solution—instead of storing your razors in the open air, exposed to moisture that causes oxidization, keep them in a jar filled with silica gel packs instead. After you’re done showering and shaving, throw the wet blade into the jar and the silica will extract the excess water, nixing bacteria preventing oxidization.
7. Protect Silver From Tarnishing
When your silver jewelry or flatware starts to look dirty or less vibrant, it’s most likely tarnished. Tarnish is caused by a chemical reaction between elements in the air coming into contact with the silver. Humidity can expedite this process. A cure for humidity? Yup, silica gel packs. The Daily Mail suggests keeping a few silica gel packs in your jewelry box or silverware drawer in order to keep humidity in check.
8. Defog a Windshield
Foggy windshields are not only a nuisance and sometimes difficult to clear, they can also be seriously dangerous. Fog on windshields is condensation caused by humidity or a difference in temperature between the outside of your car and the inside of your car. An easy fix, as suggested by My Thirsty Spot, is to keep a few gel packs in your ride, specifically on the windshield. The packs should absorb some of the excess moisture caused by humidity and keep your windshields less foggy.
9. Stop Camera Condensation
Fashion bloggers out there, you’ll love this one. Nothing’s more frustrating than a foggy camera lens caused by condensation, especially when going from the cold back inside. My Thirsty Spot, a blogger herself, suggests removing your battery, memory card, and lens and placing them into a bowl of silica gel packs to suck up all that excess moisture.