All Wives Were Expected To Follow These Rules And Regulations In The 1950s
Taking a look back at the past, it’s always interesting to see how our grandparents and great-grandparents used to live.
Back in the 1950s, the concept of women’s equality wasn’t exactly well-known or popular. Women of that time were expected to be good wives and mothers and not much else. In May of 1955, a women’s magazine called Housekeeping Monthly published an article with the title “The Good Wife’s Guide.” The article contained several rules/suggestions for a woman to follow so that she could be the best wife possible to her husband.
A lot of these may seem totally outrageous by modern standards, but this was the reality for a woman in those times. Below are some examples of what the article suggested.
1. Plan the next day’s dinner the night before so that you can have it hot and ready for your husband right as he walks in. This lets him know you’re thinking of him and care about his needs.
2. Men are hungry when they come home after work, so a good meal is part of a proper, warm welcome home.
3. About 15 minutes before your husband arrives, take a quick pause to prepare yourself by touching up your makeup, sprucing up your hair, and generally freshening up. He’s seen a lot of work-weary people all day, so look your best.
4. Be interesting and engaging for him. His day is filled with boring work, so one of your duties is to provide a lift when needed.
5. Just before he arrives, do a quick sweep throughout the house to clear away all the clutter and do a quick dusting.
6. In the winter, prepare and light a fire for his return so he can relax by it. He’ll feel like he’s in a haven of rest and order, which will give you a boost too. Catering to your husband’s comfort will provide you with a wealth of personal satisfaction.
7. Prepare the children so that their hair is combed and hands and faces are washed.
8. Children are treasures and should behave as such. Minimize the noise when he arrives by encouraging them to be quiet. Eliminate any noises from vacuums, washers, or dryers.
9. Always greet him in a cheery and positive manner. Give a warm smile and show a sincere desire to please.
10. Regardless of what you may need to discuss with your husband and/or how important it might be to you, the moment of his arrival is not the time. His conversation topics are more important so let him talk first.
11. Evenings are his time. Do not complain if he comes home late or goes out for dinner (or anywhere else) without you. You must try to understand that his world is full of strain and pressure and he needs to be able to relax.
12. A good wife’s goal is to make the home a place of tranquility and calm that her husband can renew himself in.
13. Never greet him with problems or complaints.
14. If he’s late for dinner, or even if he stays out all night, don’t complain. This is minor compared to what he’s gone through that day.
15. His comfort is your priority. Have him kick back on a comfy chair or in the bedroom and have hot and cold drinks ready for him.
16. Fluff his pillows and take his shoes off. Talk in a low, soothing voice.
17. Don’t question his actions or judgment. Remember, he is the master of the house and will always exercise his will. You have no right to question him.
18. A good wife knows her place.
It’s fascinating to think that just 60 years ago, things were so different. I wonder what people will write about our generation in 60 years?
12 Pearls Of Wisdom My Grandma Left With Me. Listen Up!
When my grandmother, Zelda, passed away a few years ago at the age of 90, she left me with a box of miscellaneous items from her house that she knew I had grown to appreciate over the years. Among these items is an old leather-bound journal that she aptly named her Inspiration Journal.
Throughout the second half of her life, she used this journal to jot down ideas, thoughts, quotes, song lyrics, and anything else that moved her. She would read excerpts from her journal to me when I was growing up, and I would listen and ask questions. I honestly credit a part of who I am now to the wisdom she bestowed on me when I was young.
Today I want to share some of these inspiring excerpts with you. I’ve done my best to sort, copyedit, and reorganize the content into twelve inspiring bullet points. Enjoy.
1. If you’re looking for a happy ending and can’t seem to find one, maybe it’s time to start looking for a new beginning.
Brush yourself off and accept that you have to fail from time to time. That’s how you learn. The strongest people out there – the ones who laugh the hardest with a genuine smile – are the same people who have fought the toughest battles. They’re smiling because they’ve decided that they’re not going to let anything hold them down, they’re moving on to a new beginning.
2. Breathe in the future, breathe out the past.
No matter where you are or what you’re going through, always believe that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Never expect, assume, or demand. Just do your best, control the elements you can control, and then let it be. Because once you have done what you can, if it is meant to be, it will happen, or it will show you the next step that needs to be taken.
3. Everything that happens helps you grow, even if it’s hard to see right now.
Circumstances will direct you, correct you, and perfect you over time. So whatever you do, hold on to hope. The tiniest thread will twist into an unbreakable cord. Let hope anchor you in the possibility that this is not the end of your story – that the change in the tides will eventually bring you to peaceful shores.
4. Life CAN be simple again.
Just choose to focus on one thing at a time. You don’t have to do it all, and you don’t have to do it all right now. Breathe, be present, and do your best with what’s in front of you. What you put into life, life will eventually give you back many times over.
5. Do not educate yourself to be rich, educate yourself to be happy.
That way when you get older you’ll know the value of things, not the price. In the end, you will come to realize that the best days are the days when you don’t need anything extreme or special to happen to make you smile. You simply appreciate the moments and feel gratitude, seeking nothing else, nothing more. That is what true happiness is all about.
6. Let others take you as you are, or not at all.
Speak your truth even if your voice shakes. By being yourself, you put something beautiful into the world that was not there before. So walk your path confidently and don’t expect anyone else to understand your journey, especially if they have not been exactly where you are going.
7. Pay close attention to those you care about.
Sometimes when a loved one says, “I’m okay,” they need you to look them in the eyes, hug them tight, and reply, “I know you’re not.” And don’t be too upset if some people only seem to remember you when they need you. Feel privileged that you are like a beacon of light that comes to their minds when there is darkness in their lives.
8. You are not who you used to be, and that’s OK.
You’ve been hurt; you’ve gone through numerous ups and downs that have made you who you are today. Over the years, so many things have happened – things that have changed your perspective, taught you lessons, and forced your spirit to grow. As time passes, nobody stays the same, but some people will still tell you that you have changed. Respond to them by saying, “Of course I’ve changed. That’s what life is all about. But I’m still the same person, just a little stronger now than I ever was before.”
9. Be determined to be positive.
Understand that the greater part of your misery or unhappiness is determined not by your circumstances, but by your attitude. So smile at those who often try to begrudge or hurt you, show them what’s missing in their life and what they can’t take away from you.
10. Sometimes you have to let a person go so they can grow.
Because, over the course of their lives, it is not what you do for them, but what you have taught them to do for themselves that will make them a successful human being.
11. Sometimes getting the results you crave means stripping yourself of people that don’t serve your best interests.
This allows you to make space for those who support you in being the absolute best version of yourself. It happens gradually as you grow. You find out who you are and what you want, and then you realize that people you’ve known forever don’t see things the way you do. So you keep the wonderful memories, but find yourself moving on.
12. It’s better to look back on life and say, “I can’t believe I did that,” than to look back and say, “I wish I did that.”
In the end, people will judge you in some way anyway. So don’t live your life trying to impress others. Instead live your life impressing yourself. Love yourself enough to never lower your standards for anyone.