Harvard Psychologists Say: Parents Who Raise ‘Good’ Kids, Do These 5 Things
With the world constantly changing, that means new habits and new behaviors that can be very different than the ones we grew up with as kids.
The new generation has new technologies that allow them to do things the older generation was not blessed to have. However, these technologies have distracted most children from the need to go out and socialize.
Parents can find it challenging to raise their kids if they’re basing their teachings on how they were raised as kids. Because of this struggle, Psychologists at Harvard University have found that there are certain elements that a parent must do that are very important for a kid’s childhood. Read on to find out what they are.
5 Secrets to Raising Good Kids
1. Quality time
It’s not enough to just spend time with your children, you need to be with them completely. No Xbox and no IPhone can ever replace the bond a parent has with their child. By communicating with them, listening to them and doing things they enjoy doing, they will learn how to be a considerate and caring person.
When you’re communicating with your child and listening to their dilemmas, it’s very important not to take sides on a situation. You want your child to learn from their experiences through their own perspective.
2. Broad perspectives
In other words, you should teach your children how to see the big picture and its importance. Specifically, children often need help developing broad perspective and expanding their circle of friends in order to develop their character and personality properly. that “It is important that children learn to zoom in, listening closely and attending to those in their immediate circle, and to zoom out, taking in the big picture and considering the range of people they interact with every day,” Harvard`s research argues.
3. Appreciation and gratitude
Spoiling your children does no good, as it makes them unable to acknowledge the roles of others in healthy way. Children need to appreciate the people who contribute to their wellbeing and happiness in order to do this, and they simply will not do it if they are spoiled. Specifically, if children are taught to appreciate people and happiness, they will grow up into generous, healthy, compassionate, and happy individuals. “Expect children to routinely help, for example, with household chores and siblings, and only praise uncommon acts of kindness. When these kinds of routine actions are simply expected and not rewarded, they’re more likely to become ingrained in everyday actions,” the study argues.
4. Empathy and ethics
Every parent MUST provide their children with the environment they need to bond and socialize properly. Also, they must show that they are selfless rather than selfish, so that the child ends up being more selfless as well. As per Harvard’s research, “It’s very important that children hear from their parents and caretakers that caring about others is a top priority and that it is just as important as their own happiness. Even though most parents and caretakers say that children being caring is a top priority, often children aren’t hearing the message.”
5. Moral role models
Children learn mostly from their parents. So you should be very careful about your manners and how you behave in front of your kid. You should not hesitate to apologize in front of your kid if you commit a mistake. Kids have impressionable minds and they acquire things from their surroundings quickly. You should earn the respect and trust of your child by being honest, humble and kind to them and they will learn to behave in a similar manner.
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Fathers Have More Influence In A Daughter’s Life Than Mothers, Studies Show
When it comes to mothers and daughters we all kind of believe that this bond is the greatest one in the world. Many would even say that a mother is all a daughter needs, which according to research is not entirely true. Recent studies have shown that daughters not only benefit from a fatherly figure in their life, but that fathers which are emotionally involved and present in their daughters’ lives are essential for their proper emotional development.
WHY DADS MATTER EMOTIONALLY
A study published in the Journal of Family Psychology has found that daughters who have great relationships with their fathers are at lower risk of developing depression and anxiety and are better at handing stress. In addition, they are more comfortable talking about their emotions and this allows them to be prepared for fulfilling relationships later on.
Thinks like relationships, sexuality, values, and self-image are additional things that fathers shape for their daughters. When a dad forms a healthy relationship with his daughter, he basically helps her create a positive self-image and boosts her self-confidence.
WHY DADS MATTER PRACTICALLY
Aside from the emotional factor, fathers play a huge role in their daughters’ physical and financial health. Rutgers conducted a study which revealed that daughters who had a more involved father in their childhood were more likely to be well-off financially and physically healthier compared to those with uninvolved or absent fathers.
Fathers are usually perceived as a symbol of financial stability, which in combination with the physical and emotional well-being provides for a successful and financially established daughter.
INVOLVED FROM THE BEGINNING
Fathers who are involved from the very beginning and whose bond is stronger are able to reap and provide all the benefits mentioned above. Earlier involvement is relatively new concepts, given that about seven decades ago fathers couldn’t even be present in the room when their daughters were born.
These days, there are more opportunities for men to be involved from the very beginning. They can feed their girls using formula, rock them to sleep, change their diapers and many more, which allows them to build a special bond from the start.
INFLUENCE OF MEDIA
Even though fathers can really get involved now from the start, the media seems to want to hold on to that old-fashioned image and goes against everything we’re saying. This negative media influence is getting harder to overcome and how can fathers do it when we’re bombarded with commercials that picture dads as idiots who don’t have a clue about what their baby needs or wants. These poor portrayals as stereotypes which shouldn’t be followed and should be dismissed as such, failed attempts at comedy and satire.
ROLE OF MOMS
While having a dad around is of utmost importance, this s not to diminish the role of mothers. Mothers provide valuable advice about what it means to be a successful woman and are the ones that provide their daughters with information on puberty, menstruation, and so on.
Sources: http://seizepositivity.com, peacequarters.com, ifstudies.org