Science Explains What Happens To Someone’s Brain From Complaining Every Day
With a little bit more effort and time, our brain can be shaped just like a ball of Play-Doh. Thanks to the development of neuroscience and brain imagining, we can say that our brain can redesign.
Neuroplasticity is a term that describes the lasting change in the brain, and it is really fascinating. Here is why:
- Learning new skills
- Increasing intelligence
- Becoming more intelligent in an emotional way
- ‘Unlearning’ harmful habits, behaviors, and beliefs
But, also, we are capable of redesigning our brain for worse. Fortunately, we can go back to good again.
Our Brain Can Be Changed by Beliefs
Dr. Merzenich who is maybe the most famous neuroscientist he found proofs of the link between the thoughts and the changes in our brain. He revealed that negative habits can change our brain in a bad way. And, luckily, positive habits can change it in a positive way (1).
Here is a quote by Dr. Alex Korb that explains the situation with neuroplasticity and illness:
“In depression, there’s nothing fundamentally wrong with the brain. It’s simply that the particular tuning of neural circuits creates the tendency toward a pattern of depression. It has to do with the way the brain deals with stress, planning, habits, decision making and a dozen other things — the dynamic interaction of all those circuits. And once a pattern starts to form, it causes dozens of tiny changes throughout the brain that create a downward spiral.”
How Complaining Changes the Brain
In life, we have met a person that is constantly negative and is never happy or satisfied with anyone or anything. Almost always, people who are negative are complaining all the time.
For the situation to be worse, complainers do not keep their thoughts to themselves, but they find someone to listen to their complaints.
In fact, everyone complains every now and then, but some people just do it more often. Also, we can divide complainers into three groups:
They just cannot go without complaining. If they are not using words, they are thinking about the negative things. According to psychologists, there is a term for this behavior named rumination. And, sadly, it is directly related to the anxious and depressed brain.
Complainers that Seek Attention
Here belong people who use complaining as a way to get attention from others because “they always get the worse than the others.” And, usually, people ignore them.
Low Emotional Quotient (E.Q.) Complainers
What I.Q. means for intelligence, emotional quotients is too emotional understanding. So, these people are not interested in you as a person, they see you as a someone always there to vent at.
Can We Blame the Brain?
Well, mostly, the response to this question is affirmative. Most of the people do not want to feel like that. Damaging behaviors like complaining changes thought processes, and that leads to changed beliefs, and then to changed behavior.
Actually, human brain possesses a negativity bias which is the tendency to focus more on the negative things. According to Dr. Hanson, negative stimuli make more neural activity than the positive ones.
So, when we constantly focus on the negative, our brain rewires. And, since repetition is the mother of learning, we are creating our own behavior which is negative.
We should not try to be happy all the time because it is not possible. Nonetheless, we should try to counteract negative thinking. Mindfulness and meditation can help us win against negativity.
B. Fredrickson together with her team revealed that those who meditate everyday show more positive emotions had increased mindfulness, social support, purpose in life, as well as lowered illness symptoms than the others.
Learn the basic things about meditation and then create a schedule that suits you. Only fifteen or twenty minutes of meditation per day can really help you out and make a positive change in your life.
The Link Between Verbal Abuse And Anxiety That No One Talks About
Long-term mental abuse is closely related to developing anxiety. All of the trauma and stress that accumulate over time eventually result in developing a mental disorder, out of which anxiety is the most common.
There is much stigma in regards to verbal abuse, so many people actually consider it legitimate. But, insulting, yelling, and treating someone with lack of respect causes a lot of damage to the person affected. As a matter of fact, the results from verbal abuse are as harmful to one`s health as physical abuse.
Verbal Abuse Is the Worst Form of Abuse
No matter whether it is real-life bullying or cyber bullying, any form of verbal abuse is extremely detrimental. It has been scientifically shown that it actually affects both brain hemispheres.
Ongoing and long-term verbal abuse, particularly beginning from a very young age, leads to a wide range of issues later on.
Emotional = Verbal Abuse
Verbal and emotional abuses are pretty much the same thing, as abusing someone verbally gets to them on an emotional level, damaging their confidence and self-esteem.
These traumas negatively affect the overall mental development of a person, which is something that no one wants for themselves or their loved ones.
Short-Term Effects of Verbal Abuse
- Low self-esteem and lack of enthusiasm
- Having difficulty making decisions
- Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder
- Migraine headaches
- Chronic pain
- Digestive problems
- Eating disorders
- Suicidal thoughts
In case you notice that someone you love began to change their behavior suddenly, try to help them overcome it.
Verbal Abuse Signs:
1. Where No One Can See
Many people are being abused where people cannot see. This can happen at home, at school, or even at work. Thinking that no one can know, people choose these places to abuse other people. And this may lead to serious trauma and harm to a person’s health.
People who abuse other people tend never to appreciate what others are doing. Abusers never think that whatever someone does is good enough. And, when a person is abused this way, they feel the emptiness and feel like they do not have a purpose.
3. Name Calling
Abusers tend to use name calling in order to manipulate with other people and give them orders. As others abuses, this is also a harmful one.
4. Mood Killer
When someone feels good, abusers feel like they are losing the control. So, they choose that moment in order to make that happy person feel bad again. They feed off of the unhappiness of others.
If you have a person like this in your life, you need to be careful and never let them achieve their aim.
5. Attack Someone’s Interests
People who abuse usually attack someone’s interests, hobbies, and other things they like. When someone experiences this kind of attack, they begin thinking they are not good enough, they feel worthless and may end up lying about such things.
6. Abusers Are Always Right
Unfortunately, abusers tend never to apologize or admit they have done something bad. They think of them as the best of everyone, and they are the ones that are always right.
If you know someone who you cannot talk with because they do not want to discuss things that person may be an abuser.
People who are being abused usually avoid social situations in order to keep themselves safe from abuse. If they are around people, they feel uncomfortable and feel anxious. The root of this problem comes from low self-confidence.
You need to talk to this person and ask them how they are feeling. Also, remember that you would make a big difference if you notice someone with this issue, and talk to them. You may help them a lot.
People who abuse, usually blame others for everything. So, the abused individual begins to think they are worthless and not good. This can seriously damage their health.
Although making jokes at someone’s expense seems fun, it needs to be done with permission as well as consent. Otherwise, it may end up in hurting the other person, and they may feel worthless as well as frustrated.
According to MacDermott, the abuser is not a “bad person”, but they probably have an underlying issue, that’s causing them to act out in that way, including mental health problem, depression, or substance abuse.
We hope that after reading this article you will become more aware of verbal abuse, and you will be more careful and start noticing things around.
Make sure to pay attention to your beloved one’s behavior because if you notice something strange in their behavior, you may help them before the things go worse.
Source: seizepositivity.com, gottadotherightthing.com