10 Bedtime Habits Of The Happiest And Strongest Couples
Here are some healthy habits that the happiest and strongest couples practice just before bedtime.
Can a relationship survive and make both partners happy in this fast-paced world we all live in? How much time can we really set a side to work on our relationship, help it grow and evolve? Can we have a healthy and happy relationship nowadays? Well, experts say yes, everything is possible, as long as you make an effort to see it happen.
We know that there are many happy couples out there, strong relationships and we often wonder how do they do it? Well, if you ask them they’ll all tell you one thing, happiness is not something that comes naturally, no matter how long the relationship is, you have to invest in it if you want to make it last. You need to work hard on it and commit to its development, as a couple, with joint efforts, otherwise it can all fall apart rather quickly.
Many happy couples in long-lasting relationships realize that the time they have during the day is limited, we only have that much hours in a day, so they have to make it a habit to dedicate some time of that day to one another. Many couples also admit that the time before going to bed is best spent with your partner and the little things they do before bedtime are the things that make their relationship stronger. Those precious few minutes before dozing off to sleep can make a lot of difference and make your relationship last longer, evolve and get stronger.
Here are the best bedtime habits all happy couples practice before going to bed and the routines you should adopt if you want to make your relationship stronger:
1. There’s no room for stress and worries in the bedroom
According to studies, couples who never talk about the stressful day they’ve had and the financial worries they think about in the bedroom are happier and more intimate. This shouldn’t surprise us, as a matter of fact, because stress talk is not a good foreplay. Of course, that you should always have your partner’s support on every matter but let’s leave the stress and worries out the front door and make the bedroom a sacred place of love and positivity.
2. Never leave an argument unresolved
You know how they always say you should never go to bed feeling angry? Well, this couldn’t be truer, especially if that anger stems from an unresolved argument. Find a compromise to meet each other half-way on whatever issue you were arguing about earlier in the day and don’t let those negative feelings pile up. They can erupt when you least hope for and ruin your relationship over time.
3. Try to go to sleep together
This may sound silly but there’s something comforting in falling asleep with someone you love at the same time. Whenever possible, try to synchronize your schedules and go to bed at the same time.
4. Don’t forget to complement each other
Remember pillow talk? Yes, couples who’ve been together for a long time tend to forget to say nice things to each other, time can do that in a relationship. But use the time before going to bed to give your partner compliments and receive some as well. Tell your partner how much you love him, how much he means to you and how much he completes you. It will make a world of a difference!
5. Start some bedtime routine you’ll both look forward to
It can be anything you like, as long as you follow it to the letter. It will give you and your partner something to look forward to before going to bed and something that will brighten up your day just before it ends.
6. Don’t forget to talk to each other.
It often happens that you don’t get to exchange a single word with your partner throughout the day. But make it a habit to talk to one another just before the day ends. Have deep, meaningful conversations in the most sacred place of your house, the bedroom and allow yourself to open up and feel secure at the same time.
7. No TVs, laptops and mobile phones in the bedroom
Make your bedroom an electronic-free zone and your life will become much better. You’ll have nothing else to distract you and you’ll just enjoy in each-other’s company.
8. Sometimes all you need is a cuddle
Sometimes no words are needed, all you need is a few moments of physical intimacy, a little bit of romance and everything will be fine. Your relationship will benefit from these precious moments of intimacy and grow stronger.
9. Avoid arguing before bedtime
Anything that can turn into an argument is a forbidden topic before bedtime. All the controversial or confrontational topics should be put on hold until the next day.
10. No drinking or smoking in the bedroom
And finally, according to science, alcohol and nicotine before bedtime are a nasty habit, they can disrupt your sleeping patterns and ruin your beauty sleep. Try to refrain from these two in the bedroom if you want to wake up feeling good and rested.
See also: 8 Things He Will Do That Prove You’re The One For Him.
Sometimes, a guy’s heart knows you’re his forever person before his mind does and that’s totally normal because our soul picks up on things before our mind does. Some guys take their time in figuring out that you are the one for them because they don’t see the need in rushing things. Other guys would take it slowly because they’ve been down that road before when their impulsiveness didn’t do them any good. Unlike girls, guys base love and relationships on logic, not love and feelings.
He might be madly in love with you but won’t tell you until he knows you’re the right person for him. But, what he doesn’t know is that he might be showing you signs he sees you as his partner for life without him even realizing it. Some guys are in denial about their feelings until something major happens that either wakes them up or forces them to be honest about how they feel for you. Maybe he’s skeptical who wants to test the water first. Maybe he knows you’re the one, but isn’t ready to tell you yet. So, don’t freak out if he hasn’t told you yet because we’re here to help you out! Here are things he indirectly does that show you’re his forever person.
1. He’s His Real Self In Front Of You
When a guy subconsciously knows you’re the girl he’s spending forever with, he lets you see the real him. He doesn’t build his guard up, he brings it down. He doesn’t push you away, he brings you close. He doesn’t pretend to be the best version of himself because he’s too busy being real with you. He doesn’t try to act like he has his shit together or that he’s living the perfect life when he’s not. He lets you see him when at his different moods like when he’s tired, sick, wounded, or ecstatic. He lets you see him the side of him that not a lot of people appreciate like his silly side, his childish side or even his serious side. He’s not afraid to show himself to you because he knows that you accept him for who he is.
2. He Accepts You For Who You Are
You feel safe around him to be your true self. You don’t put a fake persona that you’re doing well and everything is so great when it’s the complete opposite. He gives you space to express yourself without judgment or perceived expectations. When you are together, you feel like you are your best self because he always encourages you to embrace who you are. Whenever you are feeling sad or down, he’s there for you to support you and validate your feelings. He never tells you that you’re being dramatic when you’re being emotional, he doesn’t tell you that you need to toughen up when you’re being sympathetic to someone else’s pain, he doesn’t tell you to get it over it when you’re hurting. And because he loves all the parts that make you who you are, you are yourself with him rather than trying to be the person you think he wants you to be.
3. He Makes Time To See You
When you’re on a guy’s mind 24/7, it immediately shows. He’s constantly getting in touch with you whether he sends you good morning texts, random Snapchats throughout the day, or good night phone calls. He lets you know that he’s thinking of you and he’s not afraid to show it. He tells you that he’s getting in touch because you’ve crossed his mind on his busy day at work. He lets you know that he misses you, that he wants to see you, that he wants to spend time with you. He drops by to give you your favorite coffee in the morning because you rushed to work that day and he wanted to make you feel okay. He meets up with you in your lunch hour so he can catch up with you before he leaves out of town.
4. He Asks You Questions All The Time
When a guy is hooked on you, he’s hooked for good. He asks you questions about everything. What’s your favorite song? What’s that perfume you’re wearing? What’s a place you’ve always wanted to visit? Where do you see yourself in 5 years? His questions show curiosity in knowing you more, in understanding where you come from, and in getting to learn about your life. He asks about your parents and what they have been up to. He asks how’s your best friend is doing and how’s everything in her life going so far. He wants to know how are things at work. He listens and pays attention to what you say because he cares more than you think. And he doesn’t shy away from asking you hard or uncomfortable questions because he cares about your well-being nonetheless.
5. He Takes Plenty Of Pictures With You
I know this sounds silly, but it’s a little yet huge indication of how he feels about you deep down. He takes pictures of you when you’re looking all classy heading out to that dinner or house party because he’s proud of the woman you are. He takes pictures of you when you are laid back and chill on a Sunday afternoon because these are the moments that he just falls more in love with you. He takes pictures of you when you’re not looking because he wants to capture your beauty on camera forever. He takes pictures of your dates or the silly things you do together because he wants to look back at them and smile. He takes a picture of you with his friends and family because you mean to him just as much as they do, if not even more.
6. He Makes You Feel Comfortable
When you’re a guy’s forever person, you feel at ease because all he wants is to make you feel good whether he knows it or not. He goes out of his way for you which is something a guy doesn’t usually do unless your comfort means something to him. He also financially contributes whether that he pays the bills, puts gas in your car, lends you money when you need it, you name it! When a guy sees forever with you, he puts your racing thoughts to bed. Speaking of beds, he makes you feel safe, secure and confident in the bedroom. He answers all your questions about what you mean to him, his social circle dynamic and family life, his past and his future plans. When a guy feels comfortable with you, his one goal is to make you just as comfortable.
7. He Has Difficult Conversations With You
When a guy cares for you, like really cares for you, he talks to you. He talks to you about the stuff he doesn’t want to talk about because he doesn’t want to sound weak, needy or vulnerable. He talks to you about the things that have been weighing him down. He talks to you about what you said the other day that bothered him. He reflects out loud on his past experiences. He opens up about the things that cause him pain, discomfort, or shame. He talks to you when you want to talk, but he’s tired and just wants to go back to sleep. He talks to you because he wants to make it work and he knows that the right way to do that is, to be honest and emotionally strong.
8. He Plans His Future With You
This is a pretty obvious sign, but you probably won’t pay attention to it because you think it’s a given while in fact, it’s a privilege. You might think it’s not a big deal when he has the conversation with you on marriage and kids. You might think he’s just being a good guy when treats you right and shows you that you’re the one for him. When a guy wants you to be his partner in crime, he involves you in the planning and the execution. He tells you what his plans are, he asks for your opinion and he makes decisions with you together not on his own. He compromises when it comes to drawing a picture of your life together because he understands that successful relationships are about support and balance.