4 Habits Of Couples That Last
So you found someone really special and you want to do everything you can do to make your intentions known and the relationship be as rewarding as possible.
There are some basic traits that can be easily overlooked. These aspects seem obvious, but it can be easy to become distracted. As you grow and develop your relationship here are some things to always keep in mind and do your best to execute.
Open, Honest Communication
Communication is KEY. Not just relaying how your day went or other daily, small details, it’s important for the two of you to open up to each other intimately. Listening and engaging in the expressions of life’s problems and joys helps the two of you acknowledge where you are in relation to each other. Expressing and recognizing the pleasures of life and personal aspirations is just as important addressing the problems and obstacles. It shows trust, respect and commitment to willingly express and receive your partner’s opinions and personal thoughts or feelings.
Works On Solving Problems
Problems are bound to happen. Either external forces (financial strain, family issues or societal judgements) or internal influences (hesitational trusting, troubles opening up, not being emotionally available) have to be dealt with equally. There has to be clear communication and a trusting, non judgemental environment for that the two of you can express needs and fears.
You have choices in life and the fact that the two of you continue to choose each other is reason for celebration. Don’t underestimate the strength of showing gratitude and appreciation to your partner. It doesn’t always have to be a grand gesture or celebration, even a simple ‘thank you for being with me’ can really strengthen your relationship.
Actively Sharing And Creating Moments
This is the step beyond communication, it is the application of gathered information and directing it to an end. Make private jokes, have fun games you two play, or cook new foods together. Make conscious decisions to spend time together need to be made and full filled. Put away the cell phones, and be as present and open to each other. Don’t make expectations on the time you spend together, let events happen organically. Expectations will just limit or diminish the rewards.
7 Signs He Really Loves You, Even If He Doesn’t Say It
Women love to talk about love, expecting their guy to say “I love you” as often as they do. But they are often disappointed. The average guy would rather roll around in poison ivy than talk about his feelings. Men don’t want to talk about their relationships with anyone, even the women they love. This doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you, deeply and completely. It’s possible he has never said “I love you” to anyone in his entire life. If he loves you, he’ll eventually say the words.
Until then, look at his actions. To a guy, actions are what matter, not words. We did a little research and uncovered seven common behaviors that show he’s in love, even without the words.
1. He’s willing to sacrifice for you.
A man in love wants to do all he can to make his lady happy and is willing to make great sacrifices for her. In a fulfilling and lasting relationship, each gladly sacrifices for the other. When your man does something for you, whether it’s something grand or doing the dishes, he’s telling you he loves you. Sacrificing for the one you love is selfless and takes maturity. It shouldn’t be a one-way street.
2. He respects your friends and family
When a man loves you, he’ll respect the other relationships that are important to you. This doesn’t mean he’ll like all of those people, but he’ll be civil and show respect. He doesn’t want unnecessary conflict with others to damage his relationship with you. It could happen that someone you care about doesn’t really care about you. If he sees someone hurting you, even if it’s someone you care about, he’ll be conflicted between protecting you and respecting that person. In all likelihood, he’ll choose to protect you out of love.
3. He loves you even with bad hair and stained jeans.
You probably tried on sixteen outfits before your first date and continued to always look your best as time went on. Eventually, when you begin spending more and more time together, the day comes when you just look awful. Perhaps you’re sick or simply tired and sweaty. It doesn’t matter to a guy in love. He accepts you and loves you however you look. Men celebrating their 50th wedding anniversary have often said, “She looks as beautiful to me now as on the day we met.” Men appreciate the effort their woman makes to look her best, but love the real woman underneath the pretty clothes and makeup.
4. He’s a good listener.
Women are typically better listeners than men. If your guy really listens to you, he’s a keeper. This is particularly true if he doesn’t give his full attention to many people. This can be demonstrated in countless small ways. If you’ve said you love lilies but aren’t fond of roses and he gives you lilies for Valentine’s Day, he heard what you said. If he remembers you talking about something you’ve always wanted to do and makes it happen, he’s deeply in love.
5. He’s not afraid to show his vulnerability.
Men don’t like to expose their vulnerabilities. Perhaps it’s genetic, but men normally want to appear strong at all times. Perhaps this is why so many guys put off going to the doctor as long as possible and make terrible patients. One of the truest signs of love from a man is when he begins to expose his inner feelings and what he considers weaknesses. This shows that he really trusts you above all others. It can take quite a while before this happens, but letting his guard down is a true sign of love. (Don’t ever betray this trust – it could destroy the relationship.)
6. He’s got your back.
If your guy doesn’t stick up for you, this doesn’t always mean he doesn’t love you. Sometimes a guy thinks it’s family or friend drama and you don’t need his help. However, when it’s important, a man who loves you will stick up for you and always have your back.
7. He brags about you.
If you’ve ever heard a man brag about his lady, you can be sure he really loves her. He’s proud of the woman he loves. When he tells a friend about how smart you are, how great you cook or what a wonderful mom you are, he’s saying “I love you and I’m proud of you.” Treasure these words. Be proud of him also.
Does you guy display any of these seven signs? These are acts of love. He may never say “I love you” as often as you’d like, but he will let his actions speak for him. If the man you love shows all seven, he could be “the one.”
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